The Metasymbol

Women are not objects. They’re humans. Men are humans as well.

As I am a woman, I’m writing this from my perspective on what I’d wish for from a man (& men in general).

Be a gentleman. Communicatively guide her [both blatantly, explicitly, & HONESTLY w/ WORDS] if you truly know “better.”

Make yourself known in ways you know she could possibly be understanding of, & appreciate. EMPLOY THE MOST ACCURATE WORDS with a light, yet assertive degree of positivity (not to be confused with optimism), & with the utmost regard for the degrees of gravity related to the timeliness, materiality, & relevance of what could be an important sign, symbol, message, or piece of information, to her.

Don’t be fooled by persons who might falsely claim to know what’s best, better, or right for you— if a person’s imagined enactment, or applicational meaning for those words, for any reason, seems wrong for you (morally, literally, explicitly, contextually, or sub-textually) don’t be naively supportive of these manifestations— not all definitions are equal; some are right, some are plain wrong. A “spade” is defined as a spade, regardless of what they think, I swear.

If you misguided her, give up, let go & let God do her guiding now, because maybe she can, [or could have found] find Love, life’s ultimate & highest meaning: in, with, by, or from someone else. Be utterly grateful to be you if you do stay with her, for her.

If you clung onto beliefs when YOU did not know the way, if you placed faith in the stories & romances of others’ lifetimes, if you confused them with your own, if you were seduced by charlatans & false prophets— at that point, you wasted everyone’s most precious resource: time.

If you left the scales of Love unattended for too long, do not think you can get out ahead in this gamble— know that the currency bet was time itself, & that no human can recoup it once lost, get out ahead of it, nor expand it’s total amount —it can only shrink as life moves on.

Understand the United States of America is currently a patriarchal society, and as being such: men, please, be good to women!!! Do not abuse the privilege this afforded you, do not selfishly abandon, nor leave her in desperation (that’s NOT gentlemanly). You’ll only miss out on knowing exactly what “is”, what’s “better”, & finally (hopefully & possibly) what’s “best.” In learning how to both humbly & gracefully “lose”, in knowing what you owe, you’ll come to understand these.

Be careful to, & with, those who trust, love, look up to, & follow you, because karma can be an ill fate; it might just be a prison of your mind, regrets & desires. If you got what you deserved, why not put forth what you promised, why not see that you owe.

Love that includes justice, should be blind. If you start to “see” aggitation, jealousy, ill-will, spite, anger, or avarice —GENTLY bow out— Love isn’t supposed to feel cruel. Be it in any of the types, or in any of the numbers of the relationships you possibly have— if you identify prescient time being spent poorly on lose/lose, relationship quality deductive activity, address the issue immediately. Stop wasting your time filing overdue grievances— as if you thought harboring them, hidden from her, would somehow make them disappear completely— you & I both know you only were sheathing blades… instead of cutting straight to the heart every time, you built a knife collection? If she’s like me, she won’t forget the times you lit her heart up, but she also won’t forget the times you kept it in the dark.

Keep in mind, not every person is optimally compatible for every other person; no one is identical, and no one is substitutable. Be honest with yourself and with her. Though no relationship is ever perfect, both persons need to feel like the relationship is truthfully worth it, in spite of any past transgressions, hardships, miscommunications, and greivences endured. She can only see these events from new perspectives as her personal narrative goes on with time, because the once veritable past, we should know, cannot objectively change, though our memories are faulty, and our emotions associated with them may change. Pray that you can always try to push any narrative arch for you, or for you both, towards something “better” as soon as your imagination can get you there! Think about the possible, and probable ways you both are going to get better, better & better together, that, or tell her how you have to let her go. Allow her to hopefully find better, because you both deserve a love that can progress.

Sink costs when necessary, even if those sunk costs are relationships you have to lose when you can discern that that is what would sincerely be for the best, for both of you. Pray that you can learn, at least a little, from every relationship you’ve unwantingly lost. Greive if necessary. Loss of a relationship is the hardest, most difficult thing a heart can suffer, but please, always fight to hold on to hope for the future of Love. Be happy when you can! Do not deny yourself goodness and good feelings, and do not delight in the sufferings of others.

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Look up evolutionary reasons for the, all too common, monetary pay grade difference (on average) that exists between the sexes.

One of them is pregnancy.

A woman does not have the time that men do for reproductive agendas. Men CAN invest decades into skills acquirement, career ladder climbing, etc, without thinking of falling in love, or without taking it seriously for DECADES.

On the other hand, if SHE hopes to have biological children, she’s got a much shorter amount of time in which to do that, healthfully, than men do.

If she wasted time with YOU, & can no longer reproduce, pray she doesn’t regret the lost opportunity!!! Adoption is an option for some, but those children still cost money; money she may not have because she spent time looking for “love.”

MEN- STOP DICKING AROUND WITH WOMEN’S HEARTS! Start being serious. I don’t care what your dick “wants.” Don’t tempt, don’t enable, don’t take advantage of, don’t blame her if it was YOUR wish, & don’t waste her time with YOUR bad behavior! If she already knows of your past transgressions in love & in sex — RENOUNCE your past in an OFFICIAL MANNER TO HER! Let her know you DO NOT BELIEVE IN that/those ways any longer! Let’s not lie to ourselves, no one has a perfect past in Love, but be willing to TRY! Not by trial, she shouldn’t be “testing” you, but through effort—> put forth the resolution to put in the effort to change yourself for the better. Grow in Love.

Boys, learn how to keep it in your pants until you KNOW TO CARE enough to stick it out (i.e. put a ring on it & stay faithful).

Gentlemen know how to be (PLATONICALLY!!!) FRIENDS with children, ladies, & women!!!! Do not jump to conclusions; don’t EXPECT, PROJECT, REFLECT, or INTERPRET ANYTHING SEXUAL as coming from the other party in a relationship you know should be platonic if you wish to find a pure, true, lasting, & fulfilling LOVE!! Live like there’s something more important than SEX! Have deep, meaningful, heartfelt connections with individuals you decide to spend your free time with —that should come first & foremost ALWAYS! Laugh when things are funny. Smile when you feel joy. Cry when you feel heartache. Do not feel shame having emotions. Behave appropriately when you have them.

“No” (linguistically) means NO the first time; though if you intuit it, it still means the same thing: STOP IT. This goes for anyone, may it be a child, lady, woman, boy, gentleman, gentlewoman— whatever you call want to call him &/or her, them &/or they, it &/or it— whatever— no stands for no stands for no stands for NO! It means NO regarding whatever PHYSICAL TOUCH OR TOPIC OF CONVERSATION that the person does not desire (yes, even tickling!) until he or she freely, & explicitly chooses to change his or her mind and actively communicates that with words. DON’T annoy, don’t pester, & don’t berate him or her! Once the ball is in his or her court, meaning: once the person is made aware of your desire, let it sit on the table; it is then, HIS OR HER turn & choice to bring up, address it, or to leave it, at a polite, sometimes serious disregard. You move on to other topics of conversation, you move on to other tasks, you move on, seriously! Search for a feeling of belonging.

If, eventually, you find heartfelt love, ASK the lady, or gentleman, if she or he would like to go on a “date,” & yes USE THE WORD “date” when requesting to do so, if speaking English!!! Be honest and forthrieght with your inentions for the nature of your desired relationship and update the other party any time that nature of the existent relationship changes in your mind. It is simply respectful.